Healing words

I wrote this a couple of years ago. Not long after my Uncle and Father's passing. They passed 2 Months back to back. I saw that there were others who were in mourning also.
And I had the sudden urge to write something to help.
This is what I wrote:

Starting with some healing words. I'm not a professional or anything. But this is what I've learned in regards to keeping my sanity. I will end it all with explaining how I know!
Please be open and allow me to share.

You are emotional, upset, sad, distraught and confused about this loss. I know you don't need to be reminded but it is a fact.
It may seem like it's hitting you all at once. It may seem like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. You may even feel guilty some how. 
But you lost a loved one. No matter who it is. You have to know that they are with you.
If you sense them, think you hear them or see them. or if you dream with them then it is real.
They may not be there in physical form but they are there. It was just decided that said date of their departure was their time for transition. Transition into another aspect of life. A never ending spiritual journey. And trust me it includes you. You will meet again one day. 

Yes it hurts to no end but that's okay. Allow yourself to mourn but please do not become overwhelmed by it. Do not allow it to dictate every minute of your life.
If said departed loved one is on your mind 24/7 then it is because you miss them. 
They know that you miss them. But they want you to move on. Continue to live. Keep going to work. Those plans you had for the weekend DO NOT cancel them. Whatever it is you need/want to do, just do it!
Because no matter where you are or what you're doing they are with you.
Not to sound cliche but
If you were a spirit walking amongst your loved ones. Would you want them crying all the time and putting their lives on hold? or would you want them to keep moving forward and to continue living a full happy fulfilled life? I believe I would want the ladder.
They are no longer living in our time of war. Instead they are at peace.

You get a call and you hope it's them. Or you think you saw them sitting on your love seat from the corner of your eye. That is their imprint. That is how you know that they are still there with you. 
In your Heart and your Memory.

The one hurting now is you. But don't let it consume you. Please remember the good times and or bad times that you had with them. 

Know that if you have specific dreams about them it is their way of communicating to you that they are ok. And depending on your current worries is what would occur within said dream.

If you need to learn to focus on more positive thoughts. And want to stop crying all the time. 
Depending on your religion, I would suggest taking some time to pray or meditate daily.

When you do pray or meditate please focus on the healing processes. To do this you can sit or lay down whatever suits you. But close your eyes and think of surrounding yourself with the white light of the Holy spirit. I like to use Green light also because to me green is nature and it represents health to me. It doesn't have to be a dark or solid color. It can be sheer and almost opaque. If you can see yourself floating then that is good. This means that you are searching for your happy place. Do this for about 10 minutes. 

Let's not forget to breath.

It will be ok. 

You are ok.

They are ok.

I lost a couple of relatives back to back recently.
Being able to see them, where they are and knowing they are ok is what has kept me from crying as much as my relatives. 
I won't take credit for knowing that they are okay.
I just know that they are because it's how I see them. They are together.
They are healthy, at peace and they know I see them too!

With love